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…a lot of the wonderful things i discover about my life i keep to myself. like when i lie about my favorite color. i don’t want someone to take it away from me, i don’t want to see hatred or sentimentalism overused, i don’t want to read empty statements…

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…i could tell by the way these people backtracked when another person piped up about something opposite to those preconceptions. it was like watching a bunch of people trying to justify themselves.

people will tell you to step around the obvious. that’s wrong. the obvious is just as important as the subtle. it forms a whole picture. well, it’s the same way with these qualities of people, and our preconceptions of them. even preconceptions of other people’s preconceptions. why are we so quick to judge people? people actually do make mistakes and do bad things, however they also do good things every once in a while…

…i’m not saying anyone is particularly good or bad, i just wonder out loud. how many interactions do you have every day? how many of them are with these particular people? do you think people change? who do you think you know? challenge yourself with these questions the next time you make blanket statements and you might find you’re more alone than you think, because you just don’t know anyone…i think replacing that feeling involves not grasping at straws but letting things flow, seeing everything, not just what’s in front of us and not just what we want to see, whether those things be good or bad or neutral or black or white or blue or red or loud or quiet or soft or hard or brittle or solid.

i can name fifty good things about many people. likewise, i can name fifty bad things about many people. BUT there are few people i can name fifty good things about AND fifty bad things about. those few people are my true friends, the ones i really know, eh?

think not in terms of what you don’t have but what you do have to offer. but don’t forget to find what you don’t have along the way.

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1. applesauce (it’s so baby food)
2. baby back ribs (goes well with infinichips at chili’s)
3. clementines (whole box in a day if i remember)
4. duck (roasted like chinese people do it)
5. escargot (vive la france! i don’t know if you can even get them here)
6. french fries (mcdonalds is evil yet it rocks)
7. gummi worms (6.170 staple)
8. half sours (from a good deli, like zaftigs on harvard street or s&s in inman square)
9. ice cream cone (despite the fact i get it all over myself)
10. jello (it’s like LB agar but fruity and with less bacteria)
11. kiwi (eat with spoon)
12. lemon cake (really. lemon sandwich cookies are good too)
13. mango pudding (the best dessert obsession EVER)
14. nutri-grain bars (only because of that fake commercial. I FEEL GREAT! and only the strawberry kind. i bought a green apple box once and had to throw it out)
15. okra (my favorite southernish food. i always eat it at golden corral. on the other hand i never go to golden corral because it’s expensive and isn’t that good)
16. pocari sweat (BEST DRINK EVER. and it’s like gatorade, good after workout)
17. quesadilla (cheap food truck variety, cheese or shredded chicken)
18. ramen (not in a package but in japan)
19. sushi boat (i can eat the whole thing myself)
20. tripe (dim sum favorite)
21. uni (but only if it’s fresh. am i picky enough yet?)
22. veal (poor baby but i’ll EAT HIM ANYWAY just not that often)
23. white castle hamburger (the frozen ones are decent)
24. xylitol gum (someone better import this from japan)
25. yam (with marshmallows! except not from boston market)
26. zucchini (actually i don’t really like it but it’s the only food i can think of that begins with the letter Z)